Programming

Programming and Descriptions

A Lounge for Dominants of Color

MISTRESS SKY

Social/Lounge ~ 60 minutes

It’s a happy lounge in which you get to relax with other dominants of color. All genders welcome. All expressions of dominance will be respected. I, Mistress Sky, will facilitate a question and answer session so bring us your thoughts. We’ll begin with a go-around and ask each person to introduce us to their form of dominance. It will be so good to hear from each other—our needs, our issues, our joys as dominants.

Auntie Midori’s Queer Kinky Slash Storytelling Challenge

MIDORI

Workshop – 90 minutes

More fun than a barrel full of buttered Bards! 
Based on Midori’s perennially popular ‘Aural Sex’ workshop, learn quick fix tips on sexy voice skills and steamy storytelling. Focusing on the ye’old queer tradition of slash fiction and fan fic, we’ll break out into small teams to come up with stories. Then using the skills learned and plot created, try your hand at the smut story slam
Come have a hilarious kinky time, learn something and meet others at KBTL.

[Please note this workshop will include lots of participation and engagement in small groups. Late arrivals are welcome to attend, but may not be able to participate fully.]

Autism and Kink

JOHN PENDAL

Class with questions welcome during the session – either verbally or in the chat box ~ 90 minutes

In this workshop we look at the overlap of autism and kink. Why might an autistic person be attracted to a kinky environment? Can BDSM be used as a form of sensory regulation? What’s the difference between neurotypical and autistic communication? What would be useful to know if you’re playing with a neurodivergent person? And how can you negotiate a scene with someone who doesn’t know where masking ends and they begin?

Bi, Dominant, and a WOC: Why Enculturation Matters

MISTRESS SKY

Class + Discussion ~ 60 minutes

Our human stories fit inside a larger context of power and control and of who gets to have the most influence. I will use my own personal stories to illustrate how certain kinds of stories further disempower already marginalized groups. We can discuss the intersectionality of my real life experiences. Let’s examine my acceptance of the kind of stories that even today support power in the same few hands. Then, let’s discuss my hard won battle to get free of being shaped by those stories. My kink experiences were a positive part of that struggle. I know from experience that we can write and speak ourselves into a liberated future for everyone. This is a facilitated discussion.

Building a Capacity for Joy through Resilience: Opening Ceremonies

ECHOLYNX

60 minutes

Frequently resiliency is defined by the traumas we experience within ourselves and our societies. Resilience does not need to solely be about learning to navigate a difficult world around us; rather it can be about teaching the world around us to recognize where resiliency comes from joy and exist side-by-side with those who are resilient. How can we build our own capacities to recognize not only where we’ve needed to be strong, but also where we’ve been able to be vulnerable to ourselves and within our communities; and how can we come together as members of marginalized or minoritized identities to build better bdsm communities that hold space to contribute to future equity? Participants will have the chance to begin the exploration of their own multi-faceted, personal experiences of resilience and engage with strength and vulnerability from a broader perspective within the face of societal expectations that allows them to participate in their communities and to reflect upon experiences of joy in order to create a future societal outlet with a more positive experience of resiliency.

Closing Keynote

SIR WOMBAT

60 minutes

Closing session for Kink Between the Lines 2022.

Connecting with Your Body for Kink

AUNTIE VICE

Workshop ~ 90 minutes

This workshop will take participants through a series of exercises to help them get in touch with their bodies and how to utilize that to improve kink encounters.

Developing and Modifying Protocols and Rituals for Disabled and Able-Bodied Kinksters

PROFESSOR PRETTY KITTY

Class ~ 90 minutes

The class will focus on protocol and ritual.

First, Professor pretty kitty will discuss some sources protocol and ritual. She will present methods of developing them, and will share the importance of formalizing them in our dynamics.

But, no matter how perfect a protocol or ritual seems on paper or how hot it is in fantasy; the real world version of it often encounters unexpected obstacles. So, then, Professor pretty kitty will also address how to modify protocol and ritual in the face of these unexpected obstacles. As someone with Chronic Illnesses herself, she will also talk about modifcations for people with disabilities.

Throughout the class, Professor pretty kitty will share some examples from her past and present dynamics as well as inviting others to do the same.

Discussion at the Intersection of Race and Kink: POC Discussion Panel

VERZIIK, WITH YOSHI, SIR WOMBAT, AND MIDORI

Panel ~ 90 minutes

A candid and vulnerable discussion on living, loving, and playing as a person of color, particularly within majority-white spaces. This discussion is meant to center POC. All POC are welcome to attend, questions and participation are encouraged. White attendees who understand that being an ally is a verb are welcome and encouraged to listen.

Dudes in the Dungeon – Masculinity, Kink, & Authenticity

DARREN

Workshop ~ 90 minutes

What does it mean to be a man, and a kinky one at that? Our selves, relationships, community, and wider social context are all informed by a toxic, narrow, definition of what masculinity looks like. How do we do better? How do we grow as men and the partners/lovers/friends of men? What does it look like to explore masculinity in a non-toxic way? And how do we practice kink in our relationships and in a wider community while living intersectional, feminist values? This session will explore these ideas and provide tools and frameworks to challenge ourselves to live a life in community that is consistently questioning the status quo and challenging our assumptions about gender & sexuality. [Participation is not mandatory for attendees but strongly encouraged.]

Indigenizing BDSM

SIR WOMBAT AND MS JAY

Class ~ 75 minutes

Exploring BDSM through a lens of indigenous ideologies can be difficult. Learning to reindigenize and reclaim culture, spirituality, and fetishes is an art and skill. This class is an informal approach that will explore how to galvanize two seemingly polarized identities into one. This class is intended to engage, inform, and bring about discussion in hopes of broadening our understanding of kink.

Marginalization Debrief/ Social

KINK BETWEEN THE LINES

Social/Lounge – Please note, this session is not meant to replace any therapy sessions you may wish to have after the event

Join others who self-identify as people with marginalized identities for a debrief and general social time. This session takes place twice during the weekend, once on Saturday night after the end of classes and once on Sunday after the conclusion of the Keynote. Share what you enjoyed, what you learned, and more with other folks. This social is only open to people who self-identify with having experienced marginalization/minoritization.

Modeling Asexuality: Exploring The Cycle of Experience

ECHOLYNX AND PUCK

Workshop ~ 90 minutes

This workshop explores sexuality, with asexuality as an integral perspective. We will describe how previous models of sexuality have glossed over asexual experience, and present a new model of sexuality that captures a wider range and depth of experiences, regardless of level of sexual attraction. Participants will have the opportunity to use aspects of the new model to describe their own experiences, and practice bringing a clearer picture of their own experience to partner communication and kink negotiation.

Our Bodies, Our Lives – Ages and Stages in The Scene

MAGGIE LAFAE

Class ~ 90 minutes

In this session we will talk about the various needs and experiences of growing older in the scene. Maggie will present about her own experiences with aging and the consequences of physical changes that come with age as well as with being ND. The class will also provide opportunities for the audience to ask questions and talk about their own experience.

Overwhelmed or Enjoying It: Sensory Needs in Kink

PUCK

Class ~ 60 minutes

In this class, we will explore kink interactions and events from a sensory access perspective. How can we include sensory needs in safety protocols and scene negotiation? What would it look like if sensory experiences of participants were part of event planning? From concrete negotiation scripts to tips for event organizers, everyone will leave this discussion with new tools to try out!

Sustainable Power Exchange – Navigating physical & mental health in PX relationships

SARAH SLOANE and BAL

Class ~ 90 minutes

Life is not perfect, and kink is not always easy – and the one trueism in life is that our bodies and mind. What happens when the desire for a power exchange relationship meets the realities of how our bodies and minds work (or struggle)? Sarah Sloane and Bal, who together have over 40 years experience in navigating power exchange, discuss strategies for navigating power dynamics when one (or both, or all) individuals are dealing with physical or mental health issues. You’ll come away with actionable tools to use in your own relationships (or in preparation for the future), and ways to reconsider what authentic power exchange can look like in your own life. 

Trauma-Informed Aftercare

SYNUATES

Lecture/Presentation ~ 90 minutes

Aftercare provides a critical space for players to ‘come down’ from a scene or experience and is a fundamental practice in care and healing that is necessary and important. In this class we will learn how to utilize trauma-informed coping and counseling strategies to enhance our aftercare rituals as well as ways to bring aftercare to the forefront of your relationships, play spaces, and play parties or practice spaces. We will also learn the signs and signals of psychological distress and basic mental health first aid and triage. This course will benefit everyone regardless of their experience or skill level and is also an excellent course for BDSM professionals including event and community organizers and dungeon or safety monitors.

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February 2022 Presenters

Auntie Vice

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via CashApp: $TheRealAuntieVice

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Auntie Vice is a writer and performer. Their work focuses on kink, BDSM, gender, and power. Their background is in psychology and politics. They are an award-winning sex blogger. Please take some time to check out Auntie Vice on Twitter and Instagram at @AuntieVice and also on Instagram at @AuntiViceNSFW

Darren Campbell

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via https://www.learngrowrepeat.ca/donations

Darren Campbell

Darren Campbell

Darren Campbell (he/him/his) is a sexuality & relationship coach & educator based out of Toronto, Canada. He is an engaged & thoughtful community member with over 20 years of experience navigating kinky, non-monogamous, & queer identities. His work is centred on providing people tools and frameworks to have deep connections, loving relationships, and phenomenal sex. He is particularly invested in facilitating spaces that explore a nuanced approach to consent and focus on detoxifying masculinity. Please take some time to check out Darren Campbell on fetlife at: https://fetlife.com/users/3121 and on twitter @darrenlearn

Echolynx

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via CashApp: $MxEcholynx

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Echo is a longtime kinky community member focusing on bringing to light and abolishing the injustices faced by marginalized and minoritized kinksters in overlapping communities. They are an organizer and an educator by nature and identify as queer, kinky, polyamorous, submissive, white and disabled; they use these identities primarily to serve their communities, kinky and otherwise. They have held leadership positions and been involved in various organizations for over a decade and use their personal and professional experience to work on social equity, racial and disability justice, and intentional intersections of kink and diversity.

John Pendal

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via PayPal with the email johnpendal.coach@gmail.com

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In 2003 John became the 25th person to win the annual International Mr Leather contest in Chicago. Since then he has taught BDSM workshops around the world including Beyond Leather in Fort Lauderdale, Darklands in Antwerp; Down an Dirty in Melbourne, Australia; HunCon in Budapest; Kinkferansen in Oslo; Lupercalia in Canada; Palm Springs Leather Pride; Rome BDSM Conference; SM Bergen in Norway; Spring in the South in Atlanta; and for twelve consecutive years at Thunder in the Mountains in Denver. Please take some time to check out John Pendal on Fetlife at @KinkyLifeCoach, and on both Facebook and Instagram at @johnpendal.coach

Maggie LaFae

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via ko-fi maggielafae

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Maggie LaFae is a queer, kinky, neurodivergent elder who has been “out” for over 50 years. She has experienced what it is like to be young and bisexual in the 1960s and to be old and kinky in the 21st century. She also has diagnoses as autistic and as having lupus. Please take some time to check out Maggie LaFae at medium.com/@maggielafae, at her website maggielafae.com and via Fetlife at fetlife.com/user/3653792.

Midori

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via Patreon @PlanetMidori

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Midori is a renowned educator and writer on sexuality. Dubbed “the supernova of kink” by Dan Savage, she emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990s, soon becoming a much sought after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfillment, and kinky adventures. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. Fundamentally she is motivated by helping people to create authentic and intimate relationships while emphasizing self-actualization, shame reduction, acceptance, and justice. She leads transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ® and ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend. Please take some time to check out Midori on Fetlife at: https://fetlife.com/users/62156 and via her website.

Mistress Sky

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via Paypal.me at paypal.me/gatescounseling/amount

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Mistress Sky is a lifestyle domme and New England conference presenter. In her professional life, she is a relationship coach and an alternative lifestyle counselor. She is the author of Unequal Partnership. Visit her at gatescounseling.com/skycollective/ She is the founder of Elevate Women Collaborative, a women empowerment organization. Please take some time to check out Mistress Sky at her website, elevatingwomen.org and on Facebook at facebook.com/elevatewomen.coaching

Ms Jay / Auntie Jay

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Jay is a Queer Indigenous Dominant. Auntie is her preferred honorific and is a significant moniker of respect within the Annishinabeg community. The Anishinaabeg are a group of culturally related indigenous peoples on Turtle Island/North America. Her vision is to decolonize kink, sex and consent. The Algonquins have, from time immemorial, nourished a rich culture of service, respect, play and diversity. Auntie Jay is also an expert in cast iron restoration. She believes her unique skill is bootblacking for foodies. Sir Alistair Leather Hiraeth is her Daddy and Sir, and always playfully close is UnrulyNerdGirl, her submissive. Please take some time to check out Ms Jay / Auntie Jay on Fetlife @CastIronFemme.

puck

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via paypal with the email puckthebootblack@gmail.com

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puck is a queer, hard-of-hearing, switchy, poly, and strangely-gendered community bootblack. They have provided leather care since 2012 at events like Floating World, GKE, KinkOUT, and The Fetish Fair Fleamarket, and ran the bootblack stand at Queer Invasion in Hartford, CT for 5 years. puck loves houseplants, creative baking, and sharing thoughtful conversations in English or ASL. Please take some time to check out puck on Fetlife @bootblack_puck.

Professor pretty kitty

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via CashApp at $ProfessorPrettyKitty

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Professor pretty kitty goes by Professor kitty, pretty kitty, or just PK for short. PK identifies as a kitty, Leathergirl, and slave. She is failry involved in the community and is an active member of several MAsT chapters, a Hard Pink Sister, and a co-founder of Kinky Jews of Philadelphia. She serves a number of conferences including being Accessibility Coordinator for the Master/slave Conference and the Holy Fire Conference. In her professional life, she is a science educator (and a nerd). Take some time to check out Professor pretty kitty on Fetlife at https://fetlife.com/users/21446, on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/Professor.kitty.smith or via email at Faireprettykitty@gmail.com

Sarah Sloane

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via Venmo @PlotTwist

Bal

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Sarah Sloane and Bal are Chicago-based kinky leather folk who are passionate about education and creating engaging space for other people who live on the margins. Both found the kink community (separately!) over 20 years ago, and they have taught, both separately and together, about topics that they are passionate about at local, regional, and national events and organizations. Sarah is a queer white demisexual D-type cis woman who navigates life with mental and physical health challenges; Bal identifies as cis sub poly boy. They recently celebrated 9 years together as Sir and boy.

Sir Wombat

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via https://linktr.ee/sirmrwombat

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Sir Wombat (Dr. Escareño) is a two-spirited Deaf urban Los Angeleno indigenous person fueled by social justice and perpetuating meaningful change. Sir Wombat identifies mostly on the Left side of the slash including Doctor. Sir Wombat is the head a leather family, the House of Wombat, who are experienced in kinks and BDSM skills which are passed down. Guided by Honesty, Open-mindedness, and Willingness, Sir Wombat mentors’ others through this ethical lens while embracing their sexual spirit. Please take some time to check out Sir Wombat at https://linktr.ee/sirmrwombat

Synuates

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via  Ko-fi: @synuates

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Synuates is a kinky social worker currently living in Amsterdam. His primary areas of focus include macro social work, trauma, health equity, and gender diversity. Mutual aid, healing from trauma, marginalization and oppression dynamics, and creating strong communities are all deep interests of Synuates’. Please take some time to check out Synautes on Fetlife at @Synuates

VerziiK

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Directed donations (tips) can be sent via CashApp: $TSveng

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VerziiK is a bi+ femme Afro-Latina based in Connecticut, USA . They have presented POC and LGBTQ+ discussion panels for NELA and KBtL; their article, “Kink Belongs to All of Us: Committing to Inclusion,” was featured in the 3rd Issue of the Summer 2021, Rogue Gazette under their former handle, Anima. Please take some time to check out VerziiK at https://fetlife.com/users/10238096

Yoshi

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Yoshi is accepting directed donations (tips) via CashApp at $YoshiBound

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Yoshi is a long time switchy asexual person of color. He is a passionate advocate for good consent practices, serving and leading consent teams for several hypnosis conventions, and has lead and participated in several discussions regarding POC inclusivity. Since transitioning, that passion also extends to being an advocate for the LGBTQ+ community, as well as pushing for more inclusivity for those with disabilities. He is known for being sassy (a bit bratty), full of laughter, hugs, and love.

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Past Sessions

Bondage for Bigger Bodies
Darling, You Are Growing Older – Aging in the scene
Female Empowerment on Both Sides of the Slash
Let’s Talk about Race Baby: A POC Discussion Panel on Fetishization and Race
Overwhelmed or Enjoying It: Sensory Needs in Kink
Playing When Health is a Hard Limit
Power Negotiation: Skills for more authentic scene building
Trauma Informed Aftercare

Past Presenters