Programming Sessions

November 2022 Sessions

Accountability within the D/s and M/s Dynamic

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This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Naukara

90 Minutes

Saturday 11:30 AM

But I’m a Parent!: Navigating a Kinky Life While Also Raising Little Humans (Without Scarring Them for Life)

Getting your needs met while also meeting the needs of your little humans can often be at odds. This class will discuss creative strategies and resources to getting your kink on and balancing the demands of parenthood and other relationships. We will discuss time management, privacy, sex-positive parenting, creative family-friendly storage solutions for your kink gear, suggestions of what to do if found in a compromising position by your offspring, and much much more.

Instructor Maeve McBride is a second generation Kinkster, educator, kink party host and Dungeon Monitor, who has been kinky since she started tying up her Jem and the Holograms dolls to the legs of tables and chairs at quite a young age; she is also a parent of 3 wonderful humans and doing her best to empower them and not f@#$ them up for life.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Maeve McBride

90 Minutes

Saturday 6:30 PM

Closing Keynote: The Diversity of Perversity

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Jaki Griot

60 Minutes

Sunday / 6:00 PM

Collaborative Consent: Pursuing Pleasure While Reducing Risk

Good sex and play are the results of connection and communication. But how do we share our desires and create consent with our partners while keeping it sexy? How do we push past the awkward and have fun while negotiating? In this class, Darren will guide students through a collaborative approach to consent that emphasizes mutual connection and responsibility for consent in a scene. Particular emphasis will be paid to the possibilities inherent in enthusiastic consent, the roles bottoms/submissives can play in creating spaces of mutual consent, and reducing and understanding risk. The class also includes and in-depth discussion of non-transactional models of consent and negotiation, discussing the benefits on both an individual level and for a wider community interested in reducing harm.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Darren Campbell

90 Minutes

Sunday / 8:30 AM

Dealing with Strangers and Unwanted Attention

We will have a socratic/open discussion on how to deal with unexpected and unwanted attention. With strangers and being stared at. We will review techniques that our group finds works in these situations. All opinions matter and are needed.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Everblazed

45 minutes

Saturday / 3:30 PM

Demystifying Asexuality

What the heck even IS asexuality? Or aromanticism, for that matter? I’m glad you asked! We’ll go over the whole spectrum, its many shades of grey, and how it can exist in a kinky context!

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Nyx Lunaea

60 minutes

Saturday / 6:30 PM

Differentiation for Rope

The misconception that someone “can’t do rope” for a variety of reasons is unfortunately common. This class equips rope enthusiasts of any orientation (top, bottom, self-tier, etc) with differentiation techniques to make rope experiences more accessible and inclusive. We’ll discuss how we can adapt and modify rope to best suit the needs of the individual while challenging common misconceptions about body types, physical ability, and more.

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SnappedGinger

90 Minutes

Sunday / 2:00 PM

Divining Your Desires: Deconstructing and Reading Tarot to Deepen Your Kink Practice

As they infinitely juggle two pentacles, The Two of Pentacles whispers a seductive idea, “Demand your sub holds stones above his head until his entire world is the weight and joy and pain of observing your every wish.” The Tower crumbles, and in her ruins, she asks you to explore and release the shame and insecurity pulling you from your deepest desires. Tarot cards have long been used to help readers connect to their ancestral magic, explore their hidden thoughts, and seek the next steps on their journey. However, tarot cards have also been a source of pain, their interpretations designed to uphold white supremacy, capitalism, classism, and the gender binary. During this workshop, participants will deconstruct and rewrite traditional tarot interpretations, finding their own story within the journey from The Fool to The World. Through a gender expansive, anti-racist, and anti-capitalist lens, participants will re-interpret the cards to uncover, divine, or inspire their kinkiest desires. By the end of the workshop, participants will leave with tarot spreads and interpretations that can help guide them in opening and deepening their solo and/or partnered kink practices. Take a deep breath. Pull a card, and meet what awaits you.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Casper Reynolds

75 minutes

Saturday / 11:30 AM

Entering a Power Exchange Without Being Aware of Your Self-Worth

‘Entering a Power Exchange, Without Being Aware of Your Self-Worth’ will be a discussion starting with some of the symptoms and low self-worth characteristics.  We will then discuss what self-worth is and how a person realizes their self-worth and accept it.  We will also address how self-worth affects power exchange relationships.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Master Kaddan

60 Minutes

Saturday / 3:30 PM

Final Gifts: Planning End of Life Care in a D/s Dynamic

Life planning is an integral part of a long term D/s or M/s dynamic for many people. One aspect that is often neglected is planning for the end. When we lose a loved one we can find ourselves struggling to plan and organize while simultaneously giving ourselves time to grieve. Losing a D/s partner adds a unique layer of pain on top of grief that many of us are unprepared for. Dawnsparkles is a death doula and end of life care worker. This class was created with D/s dynamics in mind. Participants will receive the skills to take end of life care planning into their dynamic so they can make the best decisions for themselves and find ways to end their time together with pride and dignity.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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DawnSparkles

60 Minutes

Saturday / 10:00 AM

Gender Affirmation Through Body Modification

There are many ways that folks transition- including socially and medically. But, me? I’m transitioning through body modification! I will share my experience with my gender, and how piercings, tattoos, and heavier mods have made me feel more at home in my body!

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Nyx Lunaea

75 Minutes

Friday / 4:30 PM

Imposter Syndrome, the Scene, and Me

The Impostor Phenomenon, more commonly known as Impostor Syndrome, describes the feelings and behaviors surrounding the notion that one is a fraud despite one’s objective achievements. It’s the anxiety that someone will one day pull back the curtain, revealing one to be an impostor in one’s life. In this class, InquisitiveElle pulls back Elle’s own curtain to reveal experiences of the Impostor Phenomenon in Elle’s kink and BDSM journey. After describing what the Impostor Phenomenon can look like, Elle describes some personal examples, including how it has impacted play and relationships, providing community service, and even developing this class! Finally, Elle offers some ideas for how to combat the Impostor Phenomenon, and invites discussion with the hope that those who attend may feel more connected and a little less alone.

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InquisitiveElle

75 Minutes

Friday / 12:30 PM

Inclusive Teaching Practices for the Kink Educator

Since kinky audiences tend to be diverse, in what ways might we as kink educators develop inclusive teaching practices so that we can more efficiently serve our communities? In this class, suitable for kink educators of any experience level or focus, we’ll discuss how we can adapt and modify our teaching practices to best suit the needs of the individual attendees while addressing common needs such as experience levels, learning styles, socioeconomic class, and more.

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SnappedGinger

60 Minutes

Friday / 6:30 PM

Indigenizing BDSM

Exploring BDSM through a lens of indigenous ideologies can be difficult. Learning to reindigenize and reclaim culture, spirituality, and fetishes is an art and skill. This class is an informal approach that will explore how to galvanize two seemingly polarized identities into one. This class is intended to engage, inform, and bring about discussion in hopes of broadening our understanding of kink.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Sir Wombat

90 Minutes

Friday / 2:30 PM

Kink and Disabilities

What does it mean to engage in kink when you are disabled? What about playing with a disabled partner? How do we define disability and accessibility in the post-COVID world, and how can we build a community that will be open and welcoming to all? Join Puppet (She/They) and HybridFae (They/Them) as they discuss their experiences, lead discussion, and talk with attendees about ideas for play from modifying protocols to improving venues!

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Puppet

90 Minutes

Sunday / 10:30 AM

Kink is My Job

Voyd talks about sex work and life in general, from the point of view of a queer disabled sex worker who loves their job! They talk about how they got here and where they’re going!  The lecture portion runs about 40 minutes with Q&A following. (Class content warnings: homelessness, fssw, abuse, disability, doxxing, trans/queerphobia, survival sex work, swearing (because Voyd has the mouth of a sailor sometimes).

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Voyd Penance

60 Minutes

Saturday 7:50 – 9:20 AM

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Listening With Empathy

One of the most common traits among failed scenes, negotiations, and contract discussions is misunderstanding the intent behind a verbal statement. Oftentimes the intent is buried behind, “under talk’ and lack of trust. This can be particularly challenging when communication is already at a standstill. Join me as we explore how to regain trust and relearn how to listen with empathy. In this hour, we will be covering: What is “Under talk” and how we can recognize it in our speech, Reading body language or the lack of body language, Learn how to become a more empathic person, Rebuild trust after a communication break down, How to create a safe place for private talks

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Master Retro Bella

60 Minutes

Saturday / 5:15 PM

Living Kinky After Religious Abuse: From Victims to Survivors

Religious abuse can manifest in myriad ways which include teaching dogma in a manner that causes psychological trauma. For kinksters, these experiences often become challenges in our path towards self-acceptance. Our trusted teachers, clergy or family have used religion to justify discrimination, harassment and/or humiliation. In some cases, we’ve been the victims of violence and extremism in our own homes. We do not always consider the ways that this abuse can hinder our kink lives. Nor do we always have an outlet to search for other survivors and create resources that facilitate healing. This workshop will talk about different types of religious abuse and the symptoms. It will provide strategies to deal with religious abuse when confronted. It will also discuss ways to reconcile our experience into a greater understanding of the universe and/or divine. This workshop is not a substitute for individual therapy and it will conclude with a list of resources for people interested in seeking kink-aware professionals.

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Jaki Griot

90 Minutes

Friday / 4:30 PM

Marginalization Debrief

Join the conversations with people who hold marginalized identities for a debrief of the sessions thus far and their impact as you’ve experienced it. Share with others what you’ve enjoyed, topics you’ve felt connected to and ones that have helped you learn more about yourself and your communities. While all general conversations are possible; new, this event we’re prioritizing specific topics for each day. Join us on Friday for conversations around open vs. closed identity spaces and how we engage in teaching and learning about ourselves and each other. On Saturday, our theme reaches the concepts of our differences and how we can better engage in conversations with each other without relying on marginalization Olympics. On Sunday, we’ll cap off our debriefs with conversations that center folks of marginalized experience in order build and create better spaces within our own communities. [Please note, these sessions are not meant to replace therapy or other debrief sessions you may wish to have during or after the event]

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Various Hosts

60 Minutes

Friday / 6:30 PM,

Saturday / 10:00 AM,

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Opening Ceremonies

Full Description TBD

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Echolynx

60 Minutes

Friday / 11:00 AM

Queer Sex

Q. How do queers have sex? A. However they want! Better yet, what even is sex outside of heteronormative penetrative sex. We will discuss safer sex for all people, how to define sex and the risks and how masturbation aka solo sex is as queer as we make it.

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Jaki Griot

60 Minutes

Saturday / 5:15 PM

Safety & Justice in the Scene

Marginalized communities keep themselves safe through a variety of ways including accountability proceedings, community expectations, calling out/calling in inappropriate behavior, virtual ‘policing’, restorative justice, and retributive justice, among many others. The BDSM community is no different and enacts safety and justice in its own way. Sometimes, this is helpful to kinksters who are marginalized in other ways, but sometimes it is harmful. This will be a guided community discussion about how safety and justice are enacted in BDSM communities and a contemplation about the future of such practices. How do we protect ourselves and each other? How should conferences, playspaces, and organizations handle consent violations? How do we proceed when there is an ethical challenge in our community? We will also touch upon the concept of performative justice and how it relates to safety and justice within the scene.

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Synuates

60 Minutes

Saturday / 8:00 AM

Schizophrenia in the Scene

In this class, we’ll cover how to be an ally to kinksters with schizophrenia and other forms of psychosis. People like me! This includes schizophrenia/psychosis 101, with tips on interacting with people who are actively experiencing psychosis, have a psychotic disorder, or are discussing it, as well as building events, groups, scenes, and relationships while being risk aware, and more, with some quizzes along the way. We’ll wrap up with a brief Q+A session.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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HannahTheScribe

90 Minutes

Saturday / 1:30 PM

Self Care in the Scene

Whether you are a Dominant or submissive or anything in between, there is one thing that we all have in common: self care needs! So you’ve learned to flog, you’ve learned the art of emotional masochism, you can recite your D/s handbook front to back from memory. But all this fun has you really stressed out! In a world where pain, suffering, and service are love languages, how do we take time for ourselves? Kinky play can have us focusing so much on our partner’s well-being, when do we take time to care for “us”? This class will walk you through what self care is, why it’s important, and even show you how you can make it a fun part of your dynamic. We will navigate concepts to help you enter your scenes ready and refreshed for a world of pleasure and pain, ready to take on the most diligent Doms or the bravest of brats with a clear mind and ready body.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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lilybeast

90 Minutes

Saturday / 1:30 PM

Space to Share: Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Creating Affirming Spaces

Are you getting complaints or just looking to improve anywhere you can, let’s do it! Creating a diverse, equitable, inclusive, and affirming space is a huge job but it is one that truly makes a space the best it can be. If you want to improve your space for everyone – this class is for you. We cover things like conscious language, signage, rules, protocols, and mindset.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Devyn Stone

90 Minutes

Sunday / 4:00 PM

Speaking Up

A lot of discussion about consent relies on being able to speak up. For example:

•    Standing up for yourself in negotiations

•    Being able to clearly state your needs, wants, desires and limits

•    Agreeing to AND BEING ABLE TO USE a safe word during the scene

But there are occasions when our voices may leave us, e.g. feeling that everyone has invested too much in the scene and we don’t want to let others down, flooded with endorphins or adrenaline, reliving past trauma, autistic shutdown  – and that’s what this workshop covers. We examine the many reasons why anyone may stay silent during a kink scene – whether they are a novice or experienced player. What to do if someone is triggered, and different strategies to help people communicate – even if they’ve had a lifetime of pleasing people or don’t know who they are.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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John Pendal

90 Minutes

Sunday / 8:30 AM

Trauma Informed Topping

To play with kink is to play with safety, trust, and unfortunately, often to wade through the waters of trauma.and the risk of activating those we play with. In this class we will discuss ways to be a Trauma-Informed, aware, and prepared top or dominant; who can be prepared, compassionate, and caring about the activations and triggers your bottom might experience while playing. 

By being a trauma informed top, you can help facilitate reframing, transformation, catharsis and even healing for your play partners with a little awareness, a few tools, and a handful of techniques. 

In this class you will learn how to read body language and activation cues, about trauma and the brain, and many mind-body techniques to incorporate into your dynamics and play to help both yourself and your partners heal from old wounds and reclaim kinky pleasure.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Maeve McBride

90 Minutes

Friday / 2:30 PM

You Can Love a Narcissist

We have a terrible reputation! No matter where you look, narcissists get a bad rap and are often portrayed as less-than-savory and ought to be avoided altogether. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is, well, just that, a personality disorder, and just like other types of neurodivergence, it can be hard to manage and it is incurable. But, does it have to mean we can’t love or be loved? Let’s smash this stigma once and for all! Whether you have NPD, narcissistic traits or you love a narcissist this class is for you! Disclaimer: Diagnosed with NPD over 10 years ago, Devyn will explore the ins and outs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder possibly with his service pup.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Devyn Stone

90 Minutes

Sunday / 2:00 PM

You Can’t Even Read the Room: Working with Neurodivergence in Power Dynamics

Reading and understanding nonverbal cues is an important part of play. Understanding your partner’s condition, knowing when to check in with them, and being able to communicate nonverbally can intensify the connection during a scene, and help keep you close outside of it.

This session will be accessible for Extended Access Ticket Holders

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Robin

75 Minutes

Friday / 12:30 PM

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Past Sessions

A Lounge for Dominants of Color —- Auntie Midori’s Queer Kinky Slash Storytelling —- Autism and Kink —- Bi, Dominant, and a WOC —- Bondage for Bigger Bodies —- Connecting With Your Body for Kink —- Darling You Are Growing Older: Aging in the Scene —- Developing and Modifying Protocols and Rituals for Disabled and Able-Bodied Kinksters —- Discussion at the Intersection of Race and Kink: POC Discussion Panel —- Dudes in the Dungeon: Masculinity, Kink & Authenticity —- Female Empowerment on Both Sides of the Slash —- Indigenizing BDSM —- Modeling Asexuality: Exploring the Cycle of Experience —- Overwhelmed or Enjoying It: Sensory Needs in Kink —- Playing When Health is a Hard Limit —- Power Negotiation: Skills for More Authentic Scene Building —- Sustainable Power Exchange: Navigating Physical & Mental Health in PX Relationships —- Trauma Informed Aftercare.